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Never rant Parents should offer help to babies
Many people initially react annoyed when a child tells others. Experts point out that Petzen not only has to be sneaky, but can also be an indication that the little ones need help. Parents should always be aware of this.
Sneaking is not always sneaky
"Marie has taken my doll away" or "Paul has broken the excavator": With such and similar sentences, some children blacken their playmates in adults. Experts advise not to treat sneaks as sneaky. Parents should not immediately rant and admonish, but look closely and wonder why the child petzt or even if it is because of trifles or because something very common happens? If a small matter was the cause of the blackening, the best way for the child to be motivated to tackle the problem is from an expert's perspective.
Educational advice. Image: © Christian Schwier - fotolia Exact attention important
When children blacken others, according to Ulric Ritzer-Sachs, parents should not scold the child. Instead, it is important to look closely and to understand the situation, the expert from the online consultation of the Federal Conference on Educational Consulting (bke) told the news agency "dpa". Was it about a "trifle" like the shovel taken away? Or was a more serious matter the reason for the Petzen? Instead of ranting, the child should be better asked if it needs help or assistance. "The important thing is that the child has the security: If something is or I am worried, I can ask for help," explains the expert. On the other hand, questions such as "who has started?" Should be avoided, because most of the time the child can not reconstruct the concrete situation at all. If petting occurs more often due to trifles, it makes sense to encourage the child to clarify these simple things. Again, it is important not to complain, adds Ritzer-Sachs.
In case of overexertion, the educational advisor and author Jan-Uwe Rogge recommends parents in his book "Education: The 111 Frequently Asked Questions and Answers" to take a good look at the situation and the motives for petting. Because "Petzen is not the same Petzen," the expert stresses, so there could be no universal valid tip for an appropriate handling of it. Listening carefully helps to understand the background. However, if there is a danger, there is a need to intervene - in particular, "if children are overwhelmed with independent conflict solutions and need assistance," Rogge continues. However, it is equally important to promote self-reliance and to give the child the feeling that they are able to resolve many conflicts themselves. (no, ad)