Harmony So couples can improve their sexual satisfaction

The right words in bed can improve your sex life
Harmony and intimacy are important components of all relationships. But does harmony affect our satisfaction with sexual intercourse? Couples are happier when they talk openly about their feelings in bed, researchers from the Chapman University say. In addition, satisfied couples would have more sex and would often say that they love each other.

Sexually satisfied men and women behave more intimately. Such people often say during sexual intercourse that they love their partner. Dissatisfied couples do not make such statements. Thus, sexual satisfaction could be achieved simply by some harmonic words, researchers claim. Chapman University researchers published their latest findings in the journal The Journal of Sex Research.

"Bed whispering" improves sexual satisfaction
One of the biggest studies on sexual satisfaction in relationships has found that so-called "bed whispers" could help to have a fulfilling sex life. For their study, the researchers studied about 39,000 married or cohabiting heterosexual men and women in the US. Everyone lived with their partner for at least three years, the scientists explain.

Sexually satisfied men and women cuddle more often, kissing more and laughing together during their sexual activity. The most satisfied couples also communicated more effectively. Such couples harmonize better and often say that they love each other, even during intercourse, explain the doctors. Thus, candles and romantic music may be superfluous to have a fulfilling sex life. More important is a romantic communication in bed, the researchers add.

Sexually satisfied couples often tell their partner that they love him
According to the scientists, 75 percent of all satisfied men behaved more intimately and explained that they often say to their partners during intercourse: "I love you". For satisfied women, this value is around 74 percent. Dissatisfied women and men expressed their feelings less often. Only 49 percent of dissatisfied men and 44 percent of dissatisfied women stated that they had intimate conversations during sexual intercourse, say physicians.

Almost half of the satisfied and discontented couples have read sexual self-help books and articles in magazines. The only difference between the two groups was that sexually satisfied couples actually tried out some of the ideas, Dr. David Friedrich from the "Chapman University". There is no evidence of the effectiveness of having shared showers, wearing lingerie, or using sex toys. Friedrich added.

Years of sexual satisfaction requires cooperation from both partners
The vast majority, about 83 percent of respondents, are sexually satisfied in the first six months of a new relationship. Thereafter, the value decreases when pairs do not take action against it. About half of sexually-satisfied men (49 percent) and women (45 percent) reported that their last sexual encounter lasted more than 30 minutes. These interviewees also stated that they felt the same emotional closeness to their partner as in the first six months of the relationship, the researchers explain.

It had been encouraging to learn that more than a third of couples had kept their passion alive. These couples were together even after a decade or two. Such a thing does not happen by itself, such couples made deliberate effort to prevent boredom during intercourse, says co-author Dr. Janet Lever. Common romantic and sexual behaviors probably make an important contribution to sexual satisfaction, Dr. Friedrich. Diversity is very important for them. The effect of lingerie or sex toys, however, have not yet been clarified, adds the American physician. (As)