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Inner attitude - definition and meaning
- Inner attitude is not a defined term. It outlines our attitudes with which we interact in the environment - in the positive as in the negative.
- A lack of inner attitude causes people to have trouble finding their way around their social environment.
- Inner attitude is often equated in neo-liberal coaching seminars with the brainwashing of "positive thinking", that is to deny negative experiences and perceptions. However, it means developing your own inner compass that shows what's right for you and what's wrong.
- An inner attitude is shaped by life experiences, memory, values, norms and ethics.
contents
- What is an inner attitude important for??
- Is such a setting fixed?
- Mental readiness
- Involuntary feelings?
- Inner attitude - our guide
- What inner attitude do I have?
- Speech patterns and body language
- Develop inner attitude
- Appreciating the inner attitude
- Conclusion
What is an inner attitude important for??
Our inner attitude affects how we assess objects, how we identify with other people, or distance ourselves from them. So we adapt ourselves socially without losing a sense of autonomy.
Our inner attitude determines how we respond to our environment and interact with our social environment. (Image: mariesacha / fotolia.com) Is such a setting fixed?
Such attitudes arise through our socialization, that is, through external conditions and internal impulses. So they are not fixed for a lifetime, but can change through experience and changing conditions.
Mental readiness
We are in a mode of mental readiness whose coordinate system outlines our life experience. It controls how we react to situations and objects; more specifically, it tends to indicate whether we respond to something with affection or dislike.
Involuntary feelings?
An innate attitude praises innumerable company coaching as a conscious attitude. "Developing an inner attitude" should therefore represent the royal road to mastering crises and not being helpless, that is to say unconsciously, exposed to problems. But it is not that easy. The therapist Albert Ellis worked out that we first perceive and then evaluate an event, which goes through the filter of our convincing, how things are or how they should be. This is followed by an emotional reaction.
According to Ellis, we can take responsibility for our feelings and change attitudes that prevent our emotional response to certain situations from engaging in constructive dealings with them. If we re-evaluate and revalue, so Ellis, we could control exactly the emotions that affect us. In behavioral therapy, we speak of "cognitive restructuring".
For the inner attitude is essential: Constructions of reality, we usually store unconsciously. They are based on attitudes of our parents, of our peer groups, etc. Developing inner attitude could now mean recognizing that often one's own thoughts evoke certain feelings, not the events themselves. If beliefs were irrational, they could be consciously recognized and if necessary, change, so Ellis.
The inner attitude is crucial in coping with crises, and the emotional reaction to situations can be influenced. (Image: Paolese / fotolia.com) Inner attitude - our guide
Most people have an inner attitude without thinking about it. In doing so, together with the thoughts and feelings that depend on it, it plays a significant role in whether we implement goals - or which goals we develop at all. For example, if my attitude towards the environment is fatalistic, then there is little reason to work on goals: things will happen either way, no matter what I do or not is the guideline.
So aligning my inner attitude is the guide to the direction I take, and a developed inner attitude can provide direction and stability even in times of crisis.
These are not "smart sayings", but the thoughts and emotions change processes in the brain, have an effect on which hormones are released, which messengers go on the journey, how our nervous system behaves. The self-fulfilling prophecy has little to do with "destiny," but is because our brains adjust to what we think and feel about something, whether that's true or not.
In short, if the fear of failure overpowers, we can be pretty sure we will fail, because it will cause us to behave in a way that we must fail. Or: we can hardly convince anyone of something that we are not convinced about. The good thing is: we can actively influence thoughts.
What inner attitude do I have?
Many people do not even know their inner attitude and therefore can not see where it has a positive or negative impact. So before you run into coaching seminars that usually bang the mantra "think positive" in your head, take your time.
Take fifteen minutes daily, paying attention to what you think instead of thinking "automatically". Stop and write down every thought that is coming. You will notice: Almost all thoughts come unconsciously, one picture flits after the other and disappears the next moment. A car that drives by, a scrap of words in the background bring us "to other thoughts", trigger associations. The Israeli historian Harari rightly points out that we still do not know what and whether the human mind is or whether it is a mirage.
Recognizing an inner attitude is perhaps possible if you pause the quarter of an hour a day and repeat once a week what you wrote down. Patterns will attract attention. And with these patterns, you can see if certain fragments are bothering you - at work, in everyday life, in relationships.
Take your time to write down your thoughts and reflect your notes, for example, to recognize thought patterns. (Image: contrastwerkstatt / fotolia.com) Speech patterns and body language
Also pay attention to their speech patterns. People whose inner attitude is unstable are hiding behind nebulous phrases: "Somehow", "so far away", "can be that," and so on. In addition, for people who are reluctant to develop their own inner attitude, "one's sentences" are widely used: "one says ...", "the way one does it ...", "one does ...", even if it does is about one's own behavior. This "man" implicitly implies that there is a diffuse general that "man" only associates with a particular behavior. "Man" takes the place of "I". "One says" replaced "I think that". Your own inner attitude dissolves in a pseudogeneous porridge.
Pay attention to their body language. How are you? How do you move? Do you have a reason for that? Conversely, as strange as it sounds, our inner attitude and outward attitude are mutually dependent. Just as a certain inner attitude does not only affect feelings and thoughts, but also posture, so does posture affect our inner posture. When I fold my hands as if in prayer and close my eyes, I feel well focus on a specific topic - I'm going inside myself. When I raise my middle finger, other people seem more aggressive to me than when I do not. I put myself in an attack mode. If I do not want to be exposed to such feelings without control, I can consciously work on my inner attitude.
Develop inner attitude
To develop an inner attitude, or to deepen it, there are practical exercises that are helpful. It's all about raising awareness of the notions, associations and memories that float around in our memory and to recognize the common thread.
Remember the dreams and wishes that you had as a child. Often these are buried, or even deliberately repressed, because they do not "let themselves live". Hold on to those fragments the moment you think of them. Also, systematically consider what you were playing as a child by asking your parents, siblings, or friends who were there. This is not about becoming one to one gold digger or flying to the moon, but about what you associate with those desires, dreams, and games. There are often valuable clues to things that are important to them and that have a certain inner attitude.
Look for experiences that have been repeated in your life, think about situations in which you have always had the same result. What were those experiences? Did they happen by accident? Or did you consciously drive it unconsciously? If you have directed these experiences, which inner compass led you there, which values, norms, which ethics, which ideas - which inner attitude.
Recall these situations and reflect on their reactions. Did you feel fear, grief, pain, anger? Joy, enthusiasm? Have you mastered these situations? Did you avoid them? What was your inner attitude in situations you mastered? Like the ones you failed or did not even attack?
When do you feel most comfortable? Which situations are most uncomfortable for you? Why is that? Are there values, ideals, ethics that blocked you in some situations? Or were they convictions? Were these beliefs right - viewed from a distance? These were stereotypes, prejudices?
Ask yourself what dreams you had in your childhood. These, whether fulfilled or not, often have interesting aspects to their inner attitude. (Image: Sunny studio / fotolia.com) What are you most enthusiastic about? What does this have to do with their inner attitude? What do you ask other people for? What does this have to do with their inner attitude? How can you deepen this inner attitude now??
What about your wishes? Is this about the recognition of others? Or are they things that you are passionate about, even against the resistance of others? Formulate your most important wishes. Ask yourself, then, what these have to do with their inner attitudes.
Watch also her friends, her acquaintances, other people. How do you behave? Which motives, which attitudes, which inner attitude influence their behavior? How does this inner attitude differ from its own??
Separate between clichés, stereotypes and "think positive" propaganda on the one hand and their own thread on the other hand. Identify for yourself: What does luck mean to me, what success means? When am I proud and what is it? What I want?
Check her "inner attitude". Where do their beliefs come from? Are they just taken over, by parents, media, their social environment? Which of these beliefs do you want? What are you disturbing?
Appreciating the inner attitude
For one, there are people who have developed little inner attitude. Dramatically, this will make clients feel empty-headed and desperate that they themselves do not know what their inner attitude is. But many more people still have an idea of the attitude with which they face people, situations and events, but do not appreciate them.
This is made even more difficult by alleged "inner attitude" seminars, which are not about the inner attitude of an individual, but about working as smoothly as possible to sell certain things or slipping through a job application.
Your inner attitude does not strengthen you that way. To appreciate their inner attitude, consider themselves and their environment: how well do you listen when others say something? How well do they listen to them? How attentive are you in talking to the needs of your counterpart? How attentive are you to your own needs? Do you share your needs, thoughts, questions or even criticisms with others or do you keep them to yourself? Why do they do that? What are the reactions of others?
Some seminars on "inner attitudes" are not so much about the personality of the individual, but rather about the correspondence of "common" norms, for example in the case of an application. (Image: Freedomz / fotolia.com) What is your inner attitude to the opinion of others? Do you accept that someone has a different opinion or do you want to impose your opinion on others? Why each? Do you develop your own opinion, even if it contradicts that of others? How do you talk to yourself in self-talk? Do you treat yourself lovingly? Do you critically criticize yourself? Can you forgive yourself? Do you have your own mistakes? To own achievements? To neither, or just to either? Do you admit yourself to yourself or are there thoughts that you immediately push away because you find them embarrassing? Do you know their fears? Are you embarrassed? Are you talking to others about these fears? Are you adjusting to avoid conflicts? Seek recognition and therefore conceal ideas that are important to them?
Conclusion
An inner attitude is neither fixed nor "right" or "wrong". On the one hand, it helps you to make decisions in a variety of situations. With a compass, you will find your way better, and since your own life is at stake, this path is not prescribed. On the other hand, you will be able to deal better with other people with inner attitude. Who has clarified for himself, what he thinks is wrong and right, at least gets on other people's nerves less. (Dr. Utz Anhalt)