If children conceal feelings, do not re-drill

Parents should not ream the child if they do not want to talk about their feelings

08/04/2015

Emotions are subjective and often lead to misunderstandings. Most adults have learned to classify feelings and reactions normally during their lifetime. But children have to learn just that. They often rate situations differently than adults and often can not verbalize their feelings. If a child does not want to talk about their emotional state and withdraw, parents should accept this behavior rather than re-drilling. The expert Maria Große Perdekamp, ​​director of the online consultation of the Federal Conference for Educational Counseling, advises in an interview with the news agency „dpa“.

Dealing with feelings within the family is important for children
Often, parents feel that the child is in a bad mood, that it has a serious conflict when the offspring retire to their room and do not want to talk about their emotional state. This is often not about that „Want“. „Sometimes children can not express their feelings themselves, "explains Grosse Perdekamp, ​​adding that children have a keen sense and do not want to worry or disappoint their parents, which is why they hold back their true feelings.

If parents notice that their child is keeping something from them, they should wait and see. With a question, how „Can I come back to your room afterwards? ", Parents can try to establish contact when the child retires „I would imagine that you are so and so ... is that true? "Mother or father could try again after some time, but still blocks the child if parents accept that. „Emotions are like a vault, for which you have to know the number combination. Do not touch it, "says Grosse Perdekamp.

Children would learn to handle feelings in the family. When talking openly about emotions in the family, the child does not consider such topics a taboo and will verbalize his feelings over time.

Picture: Nicole Celik