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Harmful horror stories scare pregnant women
Often pregnant women are already very afraid of birth, especially if it is the first. If they also hear stories about miscarriages or other complications, they are usually even more insecure. Such horror stories scare many expectant mothers.
Reports on dramatic pregnancy outcomes
Many expectant mothers are already very afraid of childbirth anyway. Often the loss of control, fear of pain and concern for the child are in the foreground. It does not get any easier if they also hear or read reports, such as: "A friend of mine blew bubbles in the sixth month and surprisingly lost the child," or, "Pulling in the abdomen? I would like to check it off. Sometimes something is wrong with the placenta. "Pregnant women are unsettled by such horror stories, but in internet forums of expectant mothers, the women outnumber themselves with dramatic pregnancy outcomes, reports the news agency dpa. Things get even more delicate when you're pregnant yourself and confronted with stories, often without asking.
Pregnancies are something very predictable
But why do some women tell such things to pregnant women? "Often, to give their own fears an outlet," Bettina Strehlau, a psychologist in Berlin, told dpa. Nowadays, pregnancy has become very much predictable in large parts. In the meantime, children are "less likely to be created by accident", but rather according to an optimized timetable that has been agreed with the partner. Although many couples try to determine the timing of having children as accurately as possible, biology conflicts with that. When it works, the body changes without any intervention or control. "Many women throw this off the helm," says Strehlau. They are often used to work on their body, to optimize it. But pregnancy hormones rarely care about ideal measures.
Many expectant mothers are looking for information
Many pregnant women begin to look for information to compensate for this loss of control. "It is talked, googled, compared." In addition, the diagnosis is getting more accurate and the precautionary offer is getting bigger. But more knowledge can also fuel more fears and fuel your own paranoia. Then some women try to unpack bad pregnancy or birth stories as a kind of stress relief. Strehlau said of her experience: "First-time mothers talk about it much more than mothers with several children."
Affected women should react as directly as possible
The expert also explained how affected women should react if they get whipped around such horror stories about premature births and miscarriages. She said that one should be as direct as possible. "You have to say:" You scare me, I do not want to hear that "," says the psychologist. It is usually in vain to wait politely for the other to notice his insensitive behavior of his own accord. In principle, every woman has the right to protect herself from incriminating information - especially during pregnancy. (ad): Sonja graves / pixelio.de