Couples Therapy Sleeping in Separate Beds should be the biggest relationship killer

Separate bedrooms hurt our relationship?
The partner snores again half the night, the wife rolls uneasily for hours from one side to the other. Do you know such situations too? If so, you may be aware that in this case, it is not really a deep and restful sleep to think about. Surely, some sufferers have already considered whether it would make sense to spend the night in separate bedrooms.

Many people in a committed relationship do not find sleep at night because their partner, for example, snores loudly or grates their teeth. In such a situation, some couples think about separate bedrooms. But hardly anyone dares to address this topic. For in our minds a good relationship also includes a shared bedroom with a double bed. Now the question arises, is that really useful? The "Hamburger Morgenpost" questioned some experts on this topic.

Couples with separate bedrooms still the exception
Your partner is snoring all night or talking in his sleep? As a result, you sleep poorly and are often tired during the day. Actually, you would prefer to have your own bedroom, but do not dare to address this topic, for fear of unnecessary arguments. Would it still be advisable to sleep in separate beds if it would promote their health? Couples with separate bedrooms or beds are admittedly rather the exception. A harmonious relationship includes just one bedroom with double bed. But is that conducive to our relationship?

Disturbed sleep can severely burden our relationship
There are countless reasons for separate bedrooms. Often there would be complaints of loud snoring partner, said the couple and sex therapist Friedhelm Schwiderski compared to the "Hamburger Morgenpost". In such a case, the men are usually the culprits, because men snore much more often and also louder than women, added the sleep specialist Professor Thomas Pollmächer. In general, one could say that if one partner is constantly disturbed by the other while sleeping, this can certainly be a burden in the relationship. Because as a result of sleep problems, usually the injured party blames the partner.

Through separate bedrooms, couples go on distance
It is important that affected couples talk about their problem. The shared bedroom should not just be abandoned, couples should first seek a better solution to their problem together, explained the couple's therapist Friedhelm Schwiderski. Because when partners spend the night in separate bedrooms, they are physically distanced from each other. Better solutions would be, for example, ear plugs with snoring partners, different warm sheets with different temperature sensation or even spend a night on a bed in another room, for example, if the next day is an important task at work pending. If partners completely do without a shared bedroom, this means that the partners are physically at a distance from each other, emphasizes the couple therapist Schwiderski. Such a process would later be very difficult to undo, so sufferers should be careful not to get into the situation first and preventive action is advised.