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Sorrow and Constant Tummy-ache When should children better change the day-care center?
Exact attention important
"I do not want to go to kindergarten !!" This phrase in the early morning is familiar to most parents and in a sense quite normal. But the child is constantly sad when saying goodbye in the daycare and looks unhappy, should the parents get an accurate picture of the situation. Is the kindergarten really the reason why the child does not want to go there? And if so, should we switch immediately? Or wait and see if the situation changes? Or is there a completely different reason why it feels increasingly withdrawn and feels depressed? It is usually difficult to trace the exact cause. But there are some pointers that can help parents to properly assess the situation and find a good solution.
When should children change the day care center? Image: MNStudio - fotolia Children often respond to stress with headaches or stomach ache
If children are stressed or uncomfortable, this is often noticeable through complaints such as headache or abdominal pain. Especially smaller children, who can not express themselves verbally, often respond physically to stress, many also cry a lot and can not be comforted by a trusted educator. To find out if this is really the kindergarten, according to Dana Urban, parents should take a close look at the collection and check if the child is permanently isolated and unhappy. According to the expert from the online consultation of the Federal Conference for Educational Counseling (bke), there is often a negative effect if the reference educator constantly changes.
The observation of the child should take place over a longer period of time, because the cause of the symptomatology could also lie outside of the Kita. "For example, when the child is tired or ill, parents argue a lot at home, or the child has a sibling and is increasingly looking for closeness to their mother," says Urban. In addition, there may always be phases in which the child has the kindergarten "over" and simply would rather stay at home.
Looking for a conversation with the reference teacher
If parents notice a change in the behavior of the child, it makes sense to first seek advice in the daycare center, according to the expert's tip. "If something is wrong, you should first look for the conversation with the reference teacher." With this can then be sought together for solutions. If this is not enough, parents should contact the management of the institution and, in addition, a conversation at a parenting or family counseling center may help. Since children often express their emotions more through games than through language, it could also make sense to pursue the cause of the sadness in a playful way, the social pedagogue continues. Here it would be e.g. offer to ask if you can take your favorite cuddly toy on your arm to get in touch with the child in this way.
Sometimes changing the group helps
If the child feels unwell in the day-care center in the long term, a change may be indicated. But this decision should make parents think twice, because especially if the child is already acclimated, made contacts or has built up to a particular educator particularly great confidence, this step can snatch the child the security won, Urban is to consider. Alternatively, the expert may, in some cases, also assist a change within the Kita to another group, e.g. if the child gets along with the educator there better. It looks different, however, if, for example, "the fronts have hardened between parents and educators and no joint cooperation in the interest of the child is more effective," says Urban. Then a new start in another facility could actually be a good solution. (No)